N is for Never – Preparing for a Badass Retirement #AtoZChallenge

Never say never…uh…usually.

Housekeeping: Thanks to guidance from the good folks at Bluehost, I think the commenting problem is fixed. I was walked through steps to optimize my website’s database and also given a lead on what to work on next  – a plugin that may not work with the latest version of WordPress is a potential villain here – if the problem persists.

Of course, when Mr. Bluehost and I tried things out so I could illustrate the problem, comments were posted no problemo no matter what browser or type of device (mobile, desktop) was used. Sigh. Anyways, fingers crossed no one has issues with leaving a comment from here on out.

And I have 5 whole comments in my Spam folder as of today so that shit is getting through again. Mr. Bluehost laughed when I complained of not even getting spam anymore – that was a first for him, he said.

Never is such a forever word. People who use it have to eat their words every once in a while.

I try to avoid it because of this, and because it limits you to possibilities.

I try instead to love a new idea or plan for at least 15 minutes. This gives me time to imagine it unfolding and fitting into my world.

Often when I love and live with an idea for 15 minutes, I realize it’s really not for me. So all I’ve lost is 15 minutes of dream-time.

But if I dismissed something without thinking it through – something that might have been an wonderful idea if I had only given it a chance – well, that would be my loss.

So what has this got to do with retirement, you might be asking by now. Nothing that doesn’t also apply to working life also! I use the 15 minute rule even more at work than I do at home, right now.

However I think that these automatic nevers and negative thinking and discounting of new ideas might come easier the older one gets, and even easier when someone is retired. It’s just a hunch I have and something I want to be aware of and avoid if possible.

So I vow to never say never. 😉

Except for how I feel about my life now. Because since I have been on my own:

  • Never have I been so relaxed
  • Never have I been so content
  • Never have I been in so much control of my own life
  • Never have I felt less lonely
  • Never have I been so happy.

Never stop rocking on,

The WB

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Joanne Sisco

I too prefer to ‘never say never’. Inevitably, it comes back to bite me.

Besides, never today doesn’t necessarily mean it’s never forever 🙂

btw – I’m still have issues with commenting. The difference is that it now works on the 2nd attempt and I don’t have to try repeatedly.

Widow Badass

Thanks for letting me know Joanne, and for persevering! You are not the only one. And I lose responses I have made too, when I hit Reply. I am at a loss as to what to do next. But will keep trying different things!

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